Jen PM

Oversharing online since 1995!

More About Me

So again, hey, I’m Jen and for the first couple of decades I was online, I was better known as “Jen of Jen N Dave.” First, Dave is still around. We’ve actually been married for over 20 years, now! It’s just that, over the years, this whole website thing really became my solo project… plus, things are not quite the same as they were in the “old days”… so, I finally decided to re-brand as “Jen P.M.”

I chose the PM after my name for a few reasons. For one, it’s simply my initials… sort of. It incorporates both my maiden name and married name.

It also refers to the fact that this is what I’m doing after the jen-dave site/era. 

Plus, being firmly middle-aged now, I tend to think of myself in the PM half of my life. 

And finally, it recognizes not only my past (kinda Jen “after dark” is what I was thinking), and my love for all things dark and spooky. My favorite hobby is building haunted houses, believe it or not. ;-p

When I saw the domain was available, it seemed like fate. 

So, yeah… Jen PM… but you can just call me Jen. :-p

Anyway, with that out of the way, I’ll tell you a little more about myself if this is your first time here. Heck, even if you’re one of the people who have known me from the very beginning of my internet odyssey (of which there are many, believe it or not), you might still learn a thing or two. 🙂

Born in Baltimore City on December 25, 1974, I feel the need to get out of the way that yes, I’m a “Christmas Baby” and yes I did get cheated out of presents at times, because of it. If I had a nickel for every time I’ve been asked that question… :-p

Not that I didn’t get plenty of gifts as a kid… nor am I especially annoyed by the question. In all honesty, I’ve always kinda loved having my birthday on Christmas. It had a way of making me feel special, even if it did often get lost in the holiday.

My second birthday. I don’t know that I remember this specific day, but that cookie monster is part of my earliest memory! Of course cookies would make an impression on me.

I grew up in the suburbs south of the city. My early life was defined by moving from one apartment complex to another, with the occasional extended stay at my Grandparent’s house in Pasadena.

I think that little house (that barely fit my family when we lived there) is the place I most associate with being my childhood home, even if we only lived there on and off. (It is where the picture above was taken). 

Due at least in part to the fact that I was the perpetual “new girl,” I was a bit of a loner. I also didn’t have much of an idea of what I wanted to do when I grew up. People told me I could draw well, so for a time, I thought about becoming a Disney animator. I even found a book in the library that had an address to the Disney studios, and wrote them a letter, asking how I could do that. I never heard back, though, and since this was pre-internet, I had no idea how to get more information.

At the same time, my Dad started guiding me toward a career in music. I wasn’t sure if that was for me… I enjoyed listening to and dancing along with music, but making it? Well, I at least gave it the old college try… literally. After high school, my Dad sent me to the Peabody Institute of Johns Hopkins University to study piano. I spent three semesters there, but finally quit when I just had a hard time finding the motivation to practice and felt like I was wasting both my and my teacher’s time.

Something else that happened shortly after I left high school? I met Dave. 

Our first photo together: January 1, 1995, at Disney World. 🙂

In the summer of ‘92, my family just happened to move to the same apartment community as Dave. For the first year we knew each other, we were strictly friends… but then, one thing led to another, and eventually we got our own place together. 

At that time, I had worked sort of a string of minimum-wage jobs: food service, retail, office support, etc. I wasn’t exactly happy with that… evidenced by how I kept job-hopping… but, I did what I had to.

I certainly longed for more… I just had no idea what.

Then the internet came along. Of course, it had been in development since before I was even born, but it was the invention of the world wide web in the early nineties that catapulted it into what it is today. And that just happened to coincide with me becoming an adult. :-p

Dave was definitely the bigger computer geek back then, and if it weren’t for him, I probably wouldn’t have hopped on until much later. However, shortly after moving in together, he suggested we buy a computer. 

That was definitely a turning point in my life. Currently working on a book about it all, but suffice it to say, for many years, I was better known online as Jen of “Jen N Dave.”

Yes, my rear bumper has been on the internet a long, long time… 

Of course, I was young and the internet was kind of the wild west back then… new frontiers to be pioneered and all…

Howdy, partner… got any spare bandwidth ‘round these parts?

As a result of this perfect storm of circumstances, my twenties were an exciting (if arguably controversial) time filled with travel, parties, and even media appearances.

I once read a list of things every woman should have… one being “a youth she’s content to leave behind, and a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to retelling it in her old age.” Well, I think I can say I got all that covered. :-p

Of course, as life has a tendency to do, things changed after a while. Most notably, when I turned 30, I gave birth to twins.

I never do anything halfway!

I had the idea before I gave birth that, I might have to take a little time off from my career, but then I could jump right back in. I was so cute. :-p

Despite the incredibly life-changing event I had completely underestimated, though, I somehow kept the jen-dave site going and would update here and there (although, admittedly, not nearly as much as before).

I also decided to try my hand at “mommy-blogging” at one point. :-p I had some success with that and even self-published a children’s book, dedicated to and inspired by my children, called “Two Snowflakes.” (Then society had to go and ruin that word like it does so many others!)

However, eventually, I kind of let it all slip away. The mommy-blogging and book promotions became more and more neglected, and around that same time, I started thinking it might be time to retire the jen-dave site, too.

Dave had ceased to have anything to do with it for many years… he had gone back to the rat race to pay the bills and all. Plus, he’d found a side career of his own, in the form of being a trivia host! (He is now known as Skinny Dave!) He loves it. Maybe not as much as taking pictures of naked women, but still…

As for me, well, call it a mid-life crisis perhaps, but it simply seemed time for a change. I’ve since done a lot of soul-searching… a lot of job hunting… a lot of everything. It’s been a journey, to say the least.

So where am I now? Well, in April of 2018, I started working as a marketing consultant for a property management company… which is a fancy way of saying that I work in the rental office of my own apartment community.

Of course, I certainly still have ambitions of doing more! Even if much like when I was a child, I’m not exactly sure what that “more” is. I also like to think of “JenPM” as sort of my after-party. Those were always my favorite, anyway, and I figure I’ll just see where the night takes me!

Finally, to those that have been following me all these years, thank you for sticking around so long… even if it sometimes feels like all this began just yesterday.

How did it get so late so soon?“ – Dr. Seuss

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